Friday, July 26, 2013

Creating a Life you Love

During the month of April 2013, Proud and Pretty joined Scensiblesbags.com for Spring into Self-Esteem Week. We wanted to post the blog entry on Writings in Pink, that Chelsie wrote on how to Create a Life you Love.  This applies to all people all the time.

Everyone deserves to love their life.  But for most of us, a “perfect” life isn’t something that falls into our laps.  We have to work to set up a life that we can be happy with and proud of.  When using the word perfect, I am referring to a life perfect for you.  No life is the same and what leaves us feeling content with who we are and what we do is different for everyone.  Figuring out what we want in life can be difficult, but it’s necessary.  There are so many situations that are out of our control but helping ourselves to have control over the controllable is a great way to live a lovely life.

Here are some of the greatest things you can do for yourself to better your life:

-Live consciously.  Being aware of what causes us to feel insecure, negative and down helps us to seek solutions to fix these issues.  Be realistic about what you are good at and the things that you may need to work on.  We can’t all be great at everything and distinguishing between our strengths and weaknesses can help us feel more confident in how we live our lives. 

-Surround yourself with GOOD people.  You want to share your life with people that lift you up and separate from those who bring you down.  The influence that other people have on us can affect the way we live.  If you are around people who judge you, who criticize you and who do not have your best interest in mind then you are not getting the interaction you deserve or need in order to feel good about yourself.  On the other hand, if you are around people who compliment you, inspire you to be better, help you when you’re in need, and provide a personal mirror to help you see how wonderful you really are, then you are more likely to feel good about yourself and strive to be your very best.

-Stay focused on your health.  Although many people are consumed by careers, school, family, and the busyness of everyday life, it is important to remember that keeping yourself healthy should be first on your list.  Without health, we are nothing.  Eating well and exercising does wonders for your mind and body.  It can bring on feelings of accomplishment and worth.  When you eat a healthy meal you feel light and energized.  When you do some physical activity you experience the amazing affect that endorphins have on the body.  Focusing on your health is something you do for you.  It is your personal time to get intimate with yourself on multiple levels.  It shows you care for yourself and in turn your body will repay you with confidence.  

-Keep a Journal.  Being able to write your feelings down can help you to understand your different moods.  You can go back and re read what you have written and how you have felt.  This is a powerful tool because we need to identify our triggers.  What makes us happy?  What upsets us?  What causes us to feel bad about ourselves?  These are all things that we can learn by looking back at situations and how they made us feel.  Writing is also a good way to release pent up energy and emotions.  Things that you may not want to share with others can be shared between you and a pen and paper or computer. 

-Set realistic goals.  Everyone should have goals in life.  They keep us moving and they motivate us to progress.  Goals are plans that you commit yourself to achieve.  Goals give us purpose.  They give us something to strive for and to work towards.  Make a list of goals that you need or want to accomplish.  Set short term goals and check them off one by one.  The positive feeling that comes from seeing a check mark next to a goal is very motivating.  Set long term goals that the short term ones will help you reach.  Be realistic but at the same time, strive for the best.  Goals help us to create a vision while setting up a plan to successfully accomplish whatever we set out to do.

-Create a plan.  Figure out what helps you be the best you.  List your strengths and weaknesses while having a solution based mindset.  Understand that not everything will go the way you want it to go.  Situations will arise that will test your strength both mentally and physically.  If you have a plan in place that you can put into motion these situations will be less stressful on your life.  Understand what calms you down.  Understand what and who helps you cope.  Realize the people that should be, and deserve to be a part of your life.  Figure out what motivates you and also what cripples you.   If you become more aware of these things you will be able to live a better, less stressful life.

Each one of us dances to the beat of a different drum.  Take some time to find your rhythm and get to know the person you really are.  Understanding yourself and what makes you dance will lead you to a life you love. 

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